Speaking of Empowerment

Most guys, when they get invited to serve as their friends best man in the wedding says ‘okay’ without a thought. Nothing wrong in there, after all, it’s always nice to hear that one of your friends is getting married. But then, reality quickly sets in. You remember that the best mans speeches come with this privilege. Unless you had some training in public speaking, you’ll find this part of the job a bit anxiety-provoking. Seconds after you realize this, you’ll get hit with the thought that you’ll not only need to prepare and deliver your speech but you actually have to deliver it front of guests whom you personally know. Hopefully, the pointers below can help prepare you for this daunting task.

Be natural and sincere. It’s not like you have to electrify the audience with your speech. In occasions like this and with an audience like your friends, being natural is the best tactic to capture and hold their attention. So try to deliver your speech as natural as you can. If you do it this way, ten to one, you’ll have an excellent delivery, if not a flawless one.

Although many are intimidated by the prospect of addressing people they know, it helps to know for many that this is their comfort zone where slight mistakes are easily forgiven. So forget your notion that you need to deliver an extravagant speech. Also, it would be a lot easier for the audience to hear a natural speaker than someone who treats a best man speech like a state of the nation address.

Should you read your notes or should you not read. You always have the choice of memorizing the entire speech or keeping point cards handy. Chances are, when you rely entirely on your memory you’ll forget some parts of your speech. If you can pull off a memorized speech, well and good, but in any case you should always have some adlibs ready. It’s perfectly okay to memorize your speech but try not to depend heavily on your memory as it sometimes slip. To ensure a good delivery, keep small idiot cards handy to help you keep track of your succeeding lines. On a side note, it is not obligatory to have a script for your opening lines.

Prepare in ahead of time. It’s not a good idea to prepare your speech the night or on the day of the wedding. Even if you are confident in your skills for delivering extemporaneously, it is still better to have something prepared. This allows you to sound more natural, making it easier for the audience and yourself to go through the speech without boring them.

Keep it brief but entertaining. A speech that is longer than 5 minutes, unless you have a knack for holding your audience’s attention, could be a little too boring. So try to keep your speech concise, entertaining and naturally funny.

Keep your head clear. Don’t allow yourself near the punch bowl until after you’ve delivered your speech. Usually, although alcohol can calm the nerves, it ruins the speech, letting you to be remembered for all the wrong reasons.

Follow these tips while writing and delivering your best mans speeches. Trust us, these could really help.

Why should you write best man wedding speech when you can just buy it online? There are a couple of reasons.

For one, pre-prepared speeches, no matter how excellently made, can never be tailored to your character. In most cases, these talk about weddings, stories about marriage, and the likes. Among these is the spirit of the speech. They were made to be generic and sound like it, and although they present a very good option, they’re not exactly the ones you’d want your family hear. Second is the natural tendency of these speeches to sound too structured. Although they may seem perfect for the occasion, they don’t fit the audience well. If the audience doesn’t related with your speech, it’ll either be unforgettable or just plainly boring. For a final speech, yours should be able to prepare the crowd for the celebrations that follow.

You’re best option is to come up with a speech that you wrote yourself. But how can you do that?

Refrain from thinking about the wedding first. If you do, you’ll have lesser problems figuring out what to say, then you can focus on the more important things, such as remembering your memories about the bride and groom or a little funny anedoctate. So don’t stress out even if you’re already running behind schedule.

Next, make a list of things that you want to incorporate in your speech. These could include anything from a funny childhood anecdote to the groom’s future prospects, with a funny twist of course.

There are things that shouldn’t be missing in your speech such dates (when the couple begun dating), things which significantly affect the couple, an amusing insight into the groom’s character, and maybe a short background of the bride. You can also include a funny anecdote about the groom which really happened. When it comes to ex-girlfriends, it is okay to talk about them in your speech as long as they do not go beyond good taste and so long as the groom gave you his consent. You may also reveal some secrets about how the groom is like as a person, a friend, a co-worker, or a brother. Revealing your thoughts about the groom as a husband and perhaps as a father may also be given a twist that the audience would surely love.

Once you’ve collected all the details you want to include in your speech, start writing it down. Your introductory line should be the first to come up, maybe you can use a thank you or a return of the toast to the speaker who spoke before you. Then thank the audience for coming. After this, you can offer a toast to the couple’s parents and express your appreciation on behalf of the couple. Proceed to the rest of your speech. From time to time, crack a joke or say a funny one liner. Give them a final toast along with a short ‘wish you all the best’ wish and that’s it.

Once you’re done writing the best man wedding speech, ask one of your friends to review it and for some constructive criticisms. If you are satisfied with his reactions, you’re finished. If not, you can have it edited.